So you know how I am all about “curvy” or “real” women being represented in the media, well I found this magazine called SLINK Magazine … please check it out. I’m not one of those
fat pride people, I’m just tired of of everyone else’s ideas of what “represents women” in the median they’re always so flawed.
Also check out this spread in Vogue Italia of all “curvy” models, these women are truly inspiring so beautiful
I am sorry that I’ve neglected writing on here for so long, I’ve honestly been SUPER busy with 2 internships and now school (my first day is tomorrow!) I promise to write something every week, even if it’s’ just a note. I want to try and keep this blog interesting for ALL who are kind enough to read my jumbled thoughts. – Renee
SkinnyGossip.com and it really sort of disturbed me. No scratch that, it did disturb me. I am the last person to promote unhealthy living, but having “starving tips of the day” when young girls can see this stuff is a bit unnerving. ( She has since modified her website/blog to not include these)
I started reading some of the material on there and came across this, http://www.skinnygossip.com/fat-pride-burns-my-hide/, and this is how I responded:
Let me start by saying that I in no way shape or form agree with someone claiming they are ‘plus-sized’ when the truth is they don’t want to put down the donuts and eat some lettuce every once in a while.I do agree that most people these days have found every excuse in the book to not call themselves large, especially in America. Where I come from they tell you if you have gained weight, they let you know it’s noticeable, the women don’t run off crying in the bathroom we try to fix it, to live better, longer, and happier lives. That being said. I am not a self-proclaimed “fat-lover” as you have so colorfully stated, but what I will say is that I believe you send the wrong message. Women were not all built to fit a specific mold. We come in different shapes and sizes. I am 5’7 (same height as you) and I am not 100 lbs (as you’ve stated that you are in your ‘About Me’ section) does that make me fat? I don’t over-eat, I have a healthy diet and I exercise regularly (love those Pilates!), but sadly in your mind I would still be deemed a “fat-girl”. I actually came across your blog, when I read about it in an article online about your comments on a model and I didn’t believe that this actually existed. I think what you do can be extremely damaging (I’ve read through other parts of your blog)… I am worried about the young girls who come across your blog and think that being 100 lbs is the ONLY way to go. It isn’t we aren’t all built the same and it is unfair of you to write the things you do on your blog. You say that people don’t find ‘Big’ beautiful, but that isn’t true most renaissance paintings depicted fuller figured women because back then this was the societal norm; that was their beautiful. I thought we were past this idea of fitting in, and looking like what everyone else tells us to? I guess what I’m really trying to say is that I DO NOT support people who eat unhealthily and then call themselves “plus-sized” because they don’t want to take care of themselves, but I do support healthy living, all women who are considered “plus-sized don’t live of off donuts, and healthy is not always a size 2 …
She is correct that we live in a society that glorifies over-consumption of everything (not just food!) but she is also forgetting that women (and men) are built differently. At 5’7, with broad shoulder, a high waist, and wide hips I could never be the 100 lbs she boasts to be on her page (her and I are the same height). It is anatomically impossible, and improbable for me to ever be that thin. I try to eat properly, I never over-eat, I exercise and try to stay as active as possible, but in her eyes I’m still a “fat-girl” … and according to her big isn’t beautiful. I understand when she says there are double standards when it comes to skinnier people, everyone loves to tell them what to eat, that what they look like is “wrong”, but I also believe that her writing some of the things she’s written about
bigger people has placed her in the same boat as the same people who criticize her weight.
To sum it all up she makes some valid points, but she has very little tact and I’ll admit that I was a bit outraged that she had the audacity to write some of the things she did. I think young women who come across this site are bound to leave feeling like they are less because they have curves, we aren’t all meant to be rail thin, we’re not all meant to be “plus-sized” either… what happened to everyone being beautiful, no matter what they looked like ? Who decides what’s beautiful anymore …?
Adele’s Vogue Cover has inspired me to write this, I Love It!
So I saw that Adele was on the cover of the March issue of Vogue Magazine and I was overjoyed! I know that Vogue is supposed to be “high fashion” and high fashion does not equate to being curvy so I loved that they put her on the cover.
I am not an advocate for obesity, but I am an advocate for women who are bigger and still healthy I mean those who are not exactly a size 2 or 0 (by the way I am not saying that these are unhealthy sizes, some people are naturally thin with very fast metabolisms). I have a problem with a society that believes that looking darn near skeletal is the only way to look “good”. I have known people who went to dire strains to become thin, they tried fad diets, stopped eating altogether or even snorted cocaine (yes, really). And all for what? What we see on television? In a magazine? On the clothing website we love so much? Or how we struggle in the dressing room when their “large” can’t even make it past our hips?
I have always been bigger than my peers, it’s just my build, my frame is not that of a very small woman. When I see bigger women on TV I like it 🙂 . Christina Hendricks is amazing and gorgeous, and designers screams how much they love her look but still won’t even make clothing for her… ?
I think Adele is beautiful, I think Whitney Thompson (the first plus sized winner of ANTM) is lovely, Jill Scott… I could go on and on . I had to learn like everyone else that I was made a certain way and this is who I am for life, people have to love what they’ve got or we’ll all be unhappy! That’s the theme for this Valentine’s Day I think Love yourself so that you may be able to love someone else.
Happy Valentines Day !
If you have read my “about me” section then you know that I live in New York City (NYC), and if you know anything about NYC is that H&M’s are on just about every block (that was an exaggeration, they’re in just about every neighborhood though). H&M is my favorite place to shop when I want to look like I’m “balling and shot-calling” but clearly lacking “playa-playa” mullah. I am a college student, and most of my money is spent on the “newest versions” of my textbooks (which are usually just ‘different/updated’ pictures) and various forms of “food”, including but not limited to, ramen noodles, nutella sandwiches, maybe some provolone cheese for my turkey sandwiches if I am lucky and of course the inevitable cafeteria food that I must eat because it’s included in my tuition…hmmm.
Anyway back to H&M so I saw their spring collection last month and liked it (note the use of the word ‘liked’ not ‘loved’)! Well I like most of it at least. As always I expect H&M to deliver, and they did… sorta. When I glanced at the floral top with the black trim Miranda Priestly a character from The Devil Wears Prada popped into my head instantly “Florals? For spring? Groundbreaking.”
And then I saw the rest of the collection and thought… ‘Alright, I’ll be able to work with this…‘
I must admit the color choices for spring are almost always the same for most designers the pale yellows, light corals, pinks… you get the point. It’s just boring after a while, which is why I do appreciate them trying to brighten everything up this year. I also enjoy the cut/style of some of the shirts, I love the bright orange jeans and I really like those striped pants. I would never wear these pants (confession: I probably can’t fit them, I’m just being little bitter) but I love them. I’m also really into their accessories. I am one of those “fashionistas” who don’t regularly practice what they so sincerely preach and I am working on this. I really do believe that “accessories make the outfit” and they have some really cool ones like chunky jewelry & luxe handbags I just might have a field day!
One of the main reasons the H&M spring collection caught my eye this year is because of the model they used, she’s brown! Yes! Now I’ll know what it’ll really look like on me (minus 50+ lbs) !
The model they used is named Liya Kebede and she is of Ethiopian decent. Doesn’t she just scream FABULOUS? I think her skin color really helped to accent some of the colors they chose to use. All in all I love H&M I think that they offer reasonable prices for some really cool pieces, and if you are near an H&M go see the collection for yourself and form your own opinions,I’d love to hear what you think!
So my last post was a little depressing, but I’m feeling a little better thinking about how awesome it will be to attend my first fashion week! I am super excited to be able to witness Mercedes Benz’s Fashion Week F/W 2012 collections. I probably got the chance of a lifetime when I landed my current internship. I won’t tell you where it is, and though it is a ton of work I truly cannot complain about my experience thus far. I am truly blessed, and humbled …
I honestly can’t find one brunette cover that I “love” right now…
I don’t remember exactly how I stumbled upon Liminas Magazine all I know is that I have been a fan ever since. Though I am not a post- grad young woman yet their content is easy to relate to. They have awesome career articles and other articles about beauty, health, life
(it’s great really!). It’s the perfect online magazine for young women who are (as the website dubs them) “quarter-lifers”. According to Liminas:
Liminas Magazine: life, career, love, and everything in between. A grown-up girl’s guide for all things quarter-life.
Though I am not yet there I think it’s still a great resource for young women, so check it out my friends! (…and sorry to all you guys out there I don’t know how much you’ll get from this but you should still check it out!)
Oh and if you were wondering about the name it stems from the word
“Liminal” : of, relating to, or being an intermediate state, phase, or condition : in between, transitional
… it makes sense.
It’s a brother and it’s small and it’s absolutely perfect! I have always designed these gowns and various articles of clothing but I have never had the privilege of sewing my designs myself.
*My heart flutters when I think about it…*
People ask why I chose not to go to a fashion or an art school and when I was younger I told myself that I was being practical. The truth is that designing clothing is something that brings me such joy that I didn’t want to risk going to school for it. To clarify if it became “work” then it wouldn’t be so precious to me, or at least this is what I believe .
Designing clothes is near and dear to my heart and it always will be … but on my terms and my free time. I will continue to get my education in Economic and Advertising (subjects I also enjoy) and I find comfort in knowing that at the end of the day the designs dancing around in my head will become reality on a mannequin with my perfect brother sewing machine.
Kudos to “CAJ”